Raven....I am so pleased to see that you recognize what his motivation is....and, how he is trying to hit all of your "buttons". This shows that you have some self esteem and he has not totally worn you down!
I will warn you that he may even try to increase his efforts....before he finally gives up...
so you are smart in taking your precautions! Keep that guard up.....
I know that this is a difficult period of time for you...with the natural grieving, and all....
You may have hit on an idea---maybe you won't perish without your clothes, for a while....
Why not invest in some new clothes for yourself?...the basic things....and, retrieving your old things, later, when things have settled a bit more.....
(don't tell him, if you buy new clothes, though)...Don't tell him anything....
If he were to ask...just tell him "I have decided to go bare assed and it feels good)........
I think you are dong well.....just hold y our boundaries....
It will not always feel like this....
dandylion