Acceptance has it's place in recovery for sure. I think it is right to acknowledge your feelings. But, just because you feel hurt does not mean your friend actually did anything wrong or treated you unjustly
As for myself I would much rather someone be with me cause they want to rather than because they feel guilty because I did something for them. There is all kinds of ways to bring balance into your situation.
We can always be seeking peace rather than justification. Only God knows what justice really is we only seek justice out of our own sence of what we think justice is to right what we think is a wrong done to us. God will deliver justice in His perfect timing. But we might be trying to take a shovel full of justice when all we really need is a few grains to bring balance...