The "program" is the Steps, and you apply them to your OWN life. You are powerless over alcohol. True, isn't it? Was anything you did enough to control or cure someone else's drinking? Has your life become unmanageable? Mine sure did.
The focus is on YOU--most of us living with alcoholism got pretty nuts in our own well-meaning way. It harmed us. It harmed others (when you're dealing with someone else's drinking 24/7 we tend to neglect other areas of our lives).
A lot of Al-Anon focuses on letting go of the need to control others, or even outcomes in our own lives. If we keep our focus on ourselves, doing the next right thing, keeping our own side of the street clean, and trusting that our Higher Power (which could be the power of the universe if you don't believe in a deity) will handle things without our help, our lives become much simpler and free-er.
I'd suggest asking to borrow someone's copy of "How Al-Anon Works," looking for it in your public library, or finding a used copy online.