It is interesting how many people with drinking problems can stop even for long periods of time -- its the never again part that gets us. In my opinion, only your husband know the extent of his true problem and only he can fix it. I don't completely agree that he can't do it for you and the baby, but to make it stick he has to really want it. I hope that he will start to post and explore the extent to which his life would be improved if he stopped completely. Whatever the label, life on your own terms is so much better.