I understand how a disagreement with the wife could be a trigger, so good job in noting that. Part of a good recovery plan is knowing your triggers...and another part of a good recovery plan is knowing what you will DO when you encounter triggers. We gotta keep living and interacting with others. We WILL come up against friction and disagreements. Other people will say things that 'set us off', whether intentional or not. Some people are going to be difficult to be around in early sobriety until we get stronger and develop some sober muscles. It's amazing to me how others can sort of sabotage your efforts at sobriety, and perhaps much of that is unintentional, but other people tend to enjoy pushing your buttons to get a reaction out of you, etc. In come cases they do it for attention, but in other cases it could be just plain old animosity. If someone can't be nice to me and treat me with kindness, then I just do my best not to be around them.