Dorsey,
I am so glad you joined us. Have you considered Al Anon? It is really something when you can make friends with people who are going through the same things you are. Also...pick up a copy of "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. She writes like she is peeking in your windows. Seriously...you will be floored!
This is a difficult situation and the more support you have for yourself the better. Over time you will learn that you can't change him so allowing him to make his own choices is the the only choice you are left with.
Make yourself at home...the light is always on.
Hugs,
JT