He said something along the lines of "I know in my heart you want an apology," he then used some phrasing that almost insinuated he would "relapse again if he couldn't do this right."
How can this be a true, honest amends if he's dictating the terms for it? If HE's determining what's right for you?
I've had to apologize for my behavior, and when I do, it's never with the expectation that the person has to respond to my apology. If I'm truly sorry for something that I've done, I'm also acknowledging the fact I might not be forgiven. I have to accept that, otherwise I'm not really sorry.