I am not sure I'm following the story, but frankly, if you think you need a restraining order you probably do.
Of course, a restraining order only works if someone obeys it. So, caution is important even if you have one.
As far as the neighbor, I would not care who thought badly of me for getting a restraining order if I thought I needed one. You are the one in danger and it is your responsibility to take care of you.
Prayers,