Seems that even though he is not drinking anymore, the relationship between the two of you is still that of the codependant/ enabler type.
Why are you having to clean and take care of him? You've done that when he was a drunk and you are still doing this in a different way now. Take a different approach. If he wears the same smelly clothes day after day, don't say anything about it - bite your tongue, allow him to wear those clothes. If he complains about his food, tell him he can make it himself. Better yet, he should be taking care of 50% of the house chores. Perhaps, your husband has never needed to take responsibility because he knows that you will always do that for him.