i think this line from AdelineRose is so key:
For the first time I didn't feel like I was giving something up, instead I looked at it as gaining everything and more.
if we feel that putting down the drink or drug is akin to hacking off a limb with toenail clippers, we aren't exactly setting ourselves for a good time. but if we come to believe that we are setting down a very heavy BURDEN, and will then be FREE, we stand a much better chance of STAYING free!