Thanks, Red. I appreciate your thoughts. If I could come up with some way to convince him to see someone else, I would in a heartbeat. January was a terrible month. I was completely betrayed by the medical staff at the VA and I'm pretty sure there is a note in his file about me. So, for now, I'm trying to let things settle down, watch, and wait. I keep notes of things that happen and record any changes.
I just wanted to throw in that, the hallmark of the particular type of dementia I was looking at (FTD) generally begins in the mid-50s. It can start even earlier, in the 40s, and come on later, even into the 70s, but, though rare in general, it most commonly starts in themid-50s. Even if that isn't what he has, when I read the common symptoms list, it was like reading about him - lack of hygiene, personality change, anger/hostility, loss of social skills - so there is certainly something going on that isn't normal.
Thanks again, Jen