I'm glad you are here!! Seriously, I wish I had come here when I was 19...would have saved me a lot of pain and suffering and educated me on what to do and not do. My father is an alcoholic-functioned quite well at a very high level for years (at work ) but our home life was awful growing up. He's not functioning well anymore. I too turned to alcohol to cope and ended up being abusing the heck out if it. I married an alcoholic. My exs father died of alcoholism. Countless aunts and uncles and cousins are alcoholics. My mothers parents were both alcoholics. See the lovely family tree? It's a generational curse....the drinking and the denial.
You focus on you. He will do what he's going to do and either quit or not. That's not up to you. It sounds like you have a great head on you so don't let him get in the way of your life and your dreams and goals.
Hugs and peace to you! Please keep sharing
