"Playful" death threats
Last night was my neighbor's birthday. We went to free comedy night at the casino. They kept talking about the pending divorce between my AH and I- how sad it was, how bad they felt for me. They didn't seem to believe it when I said I was perfectly happy- that no matter what the future holds, my being free of him is priceless. Then her husband said something which kinda shocked me.
"Yeah, you know, ******* is an interesting guy, and I really wish him well. But when you're saying things, like 'we should kill (me), I mean, that made me really uncomfortable.'"
I asked him what the context was, and he just seemed really unsure. He said he wanted to believe it was a joke, but it didn't really seem like one, and it came out of nowhere.
I had previously filed for a restraining order for many issues, and this was one of them. He had threatened to take my life many times, but it was always so confusing- most of the time, it was in a playful manner. We'd be kissing, canoodling, and he'd say, "If you ever leave me, I'll kill you." But then there was one time when he said it out of anger, and there were just so many other incidents at the time, that I filed a restraining order. Then he came back with so many promises, and I dropped it. We got back together. Then I came to my senses.
I don't know- something about my neighbor telling me this just chilled my bones. But what do you do? Once you've filed a restraining order and dropped it, you're kind of screwed right?
Side note: I have a lawyer, I just don't want to ask any questions until our next meeting because she charges me up the wazoo for every phone call. And I believe in second opinions!
Anything?