Good decision judging from everything you've written in here recently.
I'm sure she had her good points and taught you some good things in those 8 months. Take those and leave the rest and keep moving forward.
Don't be in a hurry to fill her void. You'll know the right person when they come along. In the meantime, I'm sure you've got other phone numbers you can use and, of course, SR is here 24 hours a day as well.
Have you found some meetings yet where you're "allowed" to share? I know you're also looking at some other recovery meetings/groups now, but don't give up on AA. Meetings come in all shapes and sizes. You just seem to have come into contact with a group with a very strict fundamentalist type approach. Maybe it's what you needed in early sobriety...who knows?
Your sobriety is very inspiring to me. Keep doing the next right thing. You're doing amazing.