Yeah, it's almost as if you kind of dropped a bomb on your wife when she just came home from rehab: "Here, watch this pathetic video of you at your worst, and by the way, I had an affair while you were in rehab." Oh my....I mean, yeah, she has hurt you a LOT from her drinking and it sounds as if she has been neglectful to the family. And, maybe the reality is that you have already divorced her in your heart?