My XAH drank because I didn't clean the house.
Then he drank because I did. (No joke)
He drank because I didn't love him enough,
Because I loved him too much,
Because he needed space,
Because I wasn't there,
Because I asked about the budget,
Because I wouldn't let him spend money,
Because I decided not to care about money,
Because I needed him too much,
Because I was too independent,
Because I wouldn't quit my job,
Because I didn't want to move,
Because we moved,
Because he was lonely,
Because I never did anything for him,
Because I was successful (his words),
Because I wasn't a good mother,
Because I cared more about the kids than him
Because...
That's just what I came up with in 5 minutes after an 18 year marriage. There are so very many more.
The day I called BS and said--
NO. You drink because you want to drink. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with me.--
he claims is also the day that I became so unsupportive that he fell into the arms of his girlfriend. So I caused that too. Lol.
You'd think I could move mountains with a wave of my finger! (But oh how heavy those mountains were as they sat on my shoulders.)
My recent X claimed that us moving in together caused him to relapse. ??? Yet he wanted to do it and was excited... (He is actually recovering now and has retracted that statement saying it was wrong and he didn't know how sick he was.)
Just food for thought. Listen to those saying you didn't cause it...you're always only responsible for yourself.