Originally Posted by
confused0507 
I am not upset that she wants to leave me, because she doesn't. I am at a loss simply because I caused this time to happen and I do not know what to do. I messed up and I am owning that.
This is textbook CODEPENDENT thinking. You did NOT cause her to drink. Period. You have BOTH messed up.
You really need to address your codependency. Have you attended Al Anon?