Hi Bunny, congrats on your sober time. That's pretty cool!
So a slightly different angle here as it strikes me you already know you can't moderate and you don't actually want a drink.
It's the constant thoughts and the obsessing which has got worse and that it's your head that's killing you.
I know that feeling well. I try and get out of my head. It's not you that's the problem it's your thoughts, and we all know thoughts lie to us.
Get right out of your head and into your body. Notice how your body feels. Where is it tight, where is it soft? Are you sitting? What does that feel like. Wiggle your toes in you shoes (or slippers if you're as old as me) and notice how that feels too.
Basically give your attention to your body and not to your mind.
And then your mind will give you some much earned rest.
I hope that's not too left field for you to give it a try. It really does work. :-)