Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Jennifer.....I don't know if you live in the states or not... (a couple of words that you used make me think that, possibly, you do not.....
I do live in the States. But now I'm curious to know where you thought I might live instead!
LOL
I don't know if you have CoDA meetings in your location---Co-Dependents Anonymous......
I think that may be more specific to your needs (in addition to your therapy).....
I don't know either, but it's certainly something I can look into. My therapist didn't mention it when we talked about other resources last evening, but that doesn't mean anything...
Alanon--too bad about the schedule. do you ever get a day off? If so, maybe you could make some meetings on those days........
Sadly, no. I work a very full schedule for a highly regulated organization so I don't have a lot of flexibility.
I am going to make a guess---that you have issues from your early growing up years that you have brought as baggage into all of your adult relationships.....
That is a very common thing, you know.....
If a person is thirsty for intimacy and love....and, especially if they may have low self-esteem.....they will be drawn to it ANYWHERE and with anyone who offers it.....That is a very human reaction. And, unfortunately, if it is not from the right person.....it is like emotional heroine....very addictive (and, with the same destructive consequences)......
I agree 100% and couldn't have said it better myself!
Thank you so much for your support dandylion!
