He has joint (on paper at least) decision making rights. He is looking for ANY opportunity to say I am not adhering to the parenting plan so I thought long and hard before I posed it as "offer your two cents".
I truly, legally, do not have the option to simply dictate (even though I fully intend to send the girls). It's worth the momentary insults from him to know that I am complying fully with the court order.
He has virtually zero actual parenting time but the court stuck with the standard shared decision making (this was one of the concessions I made to settle this vs a long trial).
I totally hear you though that I gave him an in to insult me... I guess it's a matter of choosing my poison. I set myself up to be insulted by complying with the court orders or I just make the decision alone and set myself up for him to file more frivolous contempt motions...
It's sort of a matter of what's the least of two evils.
And he continues to dig his own grave and eventually all of this WILL be used by me to ensure that he LOSES his decision making rights....
Originally Posted by
dandylion 
wantobehealthy.....What were you thinking? Seriously?.....
You gave him an inch...and, he proceeded, predictably, to take a mile.....again....
What you did was like opening your front door and inviting the bear to come in......
the most you should have done was give him some advance notice that the girls were going to camp and the dates......
If he wants to take that to court---let him. I don't know of any judge could find that you were improper in any way. This is a life enrichment for the girls......
It, in no way interferes with his ability to be a father to his kids......
He is a paper tiger.....
Try not to shudder every time he speaks.....
(normally, I am not so blunt---but, I figure that we know each other by now....lol...
dandylion