Originally Posted by
nicegirlwny 
Thank you, that helps. I suppose I'll never be able to understand why...all that work and it doesn't seem to matter. But I'm not an addict, so I'll never know. Last night when he was at the bar, I tried to get him to let me pick him up, bring him home. He chose to drink. A friend said drink is his wife. Maybe that's why there's no room for a partner.
^^^^^^ Yep!
I can't remember if you said you were going to Alanon or not? You might give it a try.
I used to imagine holding my X tight in my hand and than imagined opening my hand and letting him go into the embrace of God.
Please, keep trying to accept that you need to release him to whatever comes the best you can Nicegirl.