I never knew standing up for myself and my boundaries could hurt so bad... Is detaching really a good thing??
^^^^ that was also my thought..........what's your alternative? being there as a front row witness to his growing madness.
He told me his friends Think I'm horrible, who leaves someone in such a bad place.. And they said "if she's so worried that your so bad; how could she abandon you??"
You are allowing yourself to get sucked into the standard manipulations of an addict.
Put those thoughts in reverse and ask yourself..........what kind of a person (addict) does this to themselves for their loved ones to witness.