Thomas, I know it's obvious but- abstinence guarantees you won't have to ponder these kinds of questions anymore!
There is nothing to miss about black outs. No worries over being hurt, or hurting someone else.
Both scenarios you described qualify as blackouts in my book. I'm shuddering as I recall a blackout which seemed like a dream until I verified it with the person I was with. Someone I should not have been with. It's very uncomfortable and this serves only as a reminder to never drink or touch a pill again.