T,
I agree about the praying part. Once on the A forum, someone told me to pray for my axh. They felt my anger and felt the only way I could soften, was to pray for him, even though I couldn't at the time. I needed to definetly soften.
When I build up resentment towards his easy, carefree life, and it consumes me, I do pray for him.
We do what ever we can to get through another day. Hugs my friend, I hope you have an awesome day.