Originally Posted by
Bekindalways 
Hi Tangled, a Trappist monk once told me that the first step in forgiveness was to say, "I'm not ready to forgive." You might not be ready for a long time. Also it is something you do (in a way it is more done TO you) for yourself.
Are you still married to and living with AH?
We are still married but I have been living on my own in our house with dd for almost a year now... I asked him to leave last year in the hope that he would get help for his drinking but he just got worse and within a few weeks met someone else and he is now playing happy families with her and her child while I am raising dd on my own.... His lack of empathy for dd and I is unreal and he is very arrogant... It will take a very long time to forgive him