Jen,
I thought you moved? How can he get in your new place?
That sucks so hard.
Everyone has said what to say to him much nicer than me. I feel defensive for you bc early sobriety is a fragile gift to be nurtured. Not fragile in the sense that you're in danger of drinking, but it's a special time where you can use the gift of clarity to really do some great work on sustaining sobriety and building an amazing life.
I'd be like, dude, I'm not consigning your bullpucky anymore. Leave me completely out of your drama.
And tell your Mom you refuse to let her guilt you into codependency.
It's easier said than done, but I hope you say something.
Hugs, sister.