Yeah, with a 3 year old things get complicated. She's old enough to realize somethings wrong. If I even close my eyes for a second laying down, just playing, she freaks out and starts shaking me. She has no way to call for help.
I have a fantastic attorney who has been in the business a long time, and a new judge that apparently is tough on alcohol issues. So fingers crossed. I feel the judges so far have honestly enabled my xAHs bad behavior because they yell at him when he screws up but don't really do much to enforce their rulings. It's then left on me to do what I feel is best for her safety and argue it later. I have withheld visits several times for good reason though and I haven't ever gotten in trouble for it