I've been a long time lurker and today this thread prompted me to finally register. Very recently I finally *FINALLY* ended an estrangement of several years with my exA. I can't tell you the immense relief I feel over not carrying around the burden of anger and resentment anymore and dare I say, it was actually good to see his face and smile. I sometimes forget that he did have many good qualities and was instrumental in helping me during a very dark period in my life.
To your original question- does this mean we are 'friends'? No, probably not, too much water over the bridge. And I've worked very hard on my own recovery to pedal backward... I'm also happily involved with someone else and I'm excited to see what the future holds at this point.
Thanks for posting this question!