Twofish
Geez I'm sorry to hear this!! I recently came back across some e-mails that my stepson sent during his fun-filled crack days. Messages filled with blame, rage, foul language, and hatred directed at his Dad, at me, and anyone else in who got in the way of his using.
It is so typical of the addict, really. My stepson said he would "talk to the priest" about his father's behavior when the enabling stopped.
I wish he had because I would love to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation. Our parish priest is not naive, and he knows the score with my stepson. But, he prays for him and so do I. I will keep your daughter in my prayers, too.
Maybe just let your daughter know you love her when you can and believe that she is capable of running her own life--because she is.
Sending hugs!