Originally Posted by
alterity 
He says he doesn't care. He doesn't want to do anything to improve his condition and wants me to continue harming my own health to "help" him. I sort of feel like I am "enabling" as much as I despise that term. I'm getting frustrated and losing patience.
So why DO you allow yourself to cause harm to yourself for someone who not only doesn't care about himself but obviously doesn't care about you, either? That's where I would start. I've got one of those too - Not morbidly obese, but one that wants those foot, neck, or back rubs without doing anything for me. I always tell him I'll give him one for ten minutes right after he gives me mine for ten minutes 🙄