Thank you, Joie, PuzzledHeart, and MissUs. I've been harboring a bit of resentment about this, because he KNOWS about my neck/arm/hands issue all too well. It's been something that has been going on to close to 8 years with the last 3 years spent trying to address it between my primary care physician, two physical therapists, one chiropractor, a cardiologist, a rheumatologist, two neurologists, and three osteopaths. And oh, dozens of massage therapists. LOL. I need massage more than anything as it's the only therapy that has ever helped. The IRONY!
Anyway, I agree that if I harm myself, I need to stop that. I just wish he'd take better care of himself too!
I will take all of your advice and try to incorporate it into making some positive changes. Thanks again!