Originally Posted by
Thumpalumpacus 
I don't mind being hard on myself a bit. I think it's counterpoint for all the years I shifted blame onto others for my own failings.
I'm happy to be kind to myself when I earn it, but the days of giving myself a pass are long gone.
I don't believe anymore that drinking is a personal failing. The thing is that alcohol is poison and addictive. It is a personal mistake to try to solve problems by drinking-it becomes a deathly spiral that slowly kills you and your spirit. I really don't think I can stay sober if I keep telling myself I am defective or that I have failed. Alcohol is the problem, not me. After all, you and I and all of us are here fighting for ourselves.