I saw this today Linzey and thought of you. Excerpt is below.
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/02/ask-...ntrolling.html
"You also learned that when you try to babysit and "save" someone else, you're the one who ends up feeling the most exhausted, the most crazy, the most lonely. You're constantly worrying about whether he'll do the things he's supposed to do. You're consumed by his choices. You're completely distracted from your own concerns. All that matters is him. But as a result, it's very easy for you to feel incredibly unappreciated and angry. Because look at all the energy you're putting into this! Why isn't he grateful? How dare he not be grateful for all that you do for him?
Which leads us to the most important lesson of all: You've learned that when you're a parole officer, instead of expressing gratitude for your tireless work, most parolees will blame you for everything that's wrong in their lives instead. You've lost sleep and worked your ass off to save this person, and what you get in return is a big F$#@ YOU, YOU'RE THE PROBLEM. Who wouldn't be confused and upset by that?"