Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
If I had $100 for every time I heard this:
No soulful professions of "you have saved me."
I probably could have retired wealthy around age 35.
STBXAH was/is the only addict I ever had a relationship with, but I heard this quite a bit from him. He was a much bigger fan, though, of waxing poetic about how I had changed him for the better, and how happy I made him. I wish I could properly describe the way he said these things, because in retrospect, the sentiment along with the way he expressed it should have been a HUGE red flag for what was to come--the near-constant blaming of me for his reactions. Every time he was a jerk, it was because I did something to "make" him be a jerk (just like in the beginning, I did things to "make" him be a better person).