Originally Posted by
Thumpalumpacus 
I should have been more specific. I wasn't advocating surrendering judgment, but rather, the primacy of ego.
But for this to work, one has to assume that the other person in the relationship is surrendering the primacy of their ego too.
And as we see so many times on the Friends and Family Board, this is an extraordinarily dangerous thing to assume. Especially given the issues with ego that are involved with addiction.