Happy birthday, Susie.
I'm hitting the big 6-0 this year, and I'm not that fond of everything I see in the mirror, myself. But I'm working on doing things that make ME happy. I'm setting some goals for myself--not with the object of attracting admiration from a man, but with the object of making me feel alive.
What can you do that would make yourself feel that way? Go back to school (or even just take some classes)? Challenge yourself to complete a half-marathon (even if it's just walking)? Plan for (and take) a trip you've always wanted to take? Teach yourself to play an instrument?
You don't have to be a smashing success at any of these things to find them fun, interesting, and absorbing. You'd be surprised at how much younger you'll look and feel if you start living for yourself.
Hugs,