Maya,
I am so sorry that you went through this.
FIRST, I would suggest posting in the forum for Friends and Family Members instead of just this one, which is meant for just family members.
The link is:
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
That forum is much more active, and you're more likely to get a response much sooner, from other people who are in your situation.
SECOND, now that I've gotten that out of the way, what struck me was this...
QUESTIONS
-who is he? Is he tho one I met or the one I said good bye to?
The fact of the matter is that if he was taking drugs from the very beginning of your relationship, you never got a chance to meet the real him to begin with.
And even if he didn't start taking drugs in the beginning, there was something in him from the very beginning that made him turn to drugs.
I'm on this board because my sister has been battling a drug problem for twenty years plus. There are many people on this board who have loved ones in the same situation. Unfortunately, drug addiction can be very hard to overcome for so many reasons.
Told me how great people back home are, etc...
He was manipulative, mean at times and he did break my trust.
Drug addicts can be so charming and manipulative. My sister has lots of lots of friends, but her interaction with them is either either extremely limited and/or they've only known each other for a very short time. It used to bother me that she would talk trash behind my back about me, but then I came to the realization that she did that to every person who tried to hold her accountable for her actions. So I couldn't take it personally.
If you met her, you would think she was the warmest, most loving person alive. But she can only sustain that image for so long. I suspect that your ex-bf is the same.
I don't know you, but I'm glad that you had the strength and courage to break up with him. I guarantee that there are others on the board who will say the same thing to you. It's so hard to let go of somebody that you loved so much, and it can be very easy to fall into "_I_ will be the one who stays by his/her side" trap.
So big hugs from me. And post this on the Friends and Family forum!