1. Is it true that "once an addict always an addict"? Is it possible that when my AXG does find another man she may be healed of this addiction?
2. Is it true that addicts try to come back to the person who loved them and really tried to help them, even though this person (like me) has moved on with someone else?
no FINDING another MAN won't fix her....that's not how it works. that is not why we have people in our lives like a walking bottle of pain reliever. you tried to fix what was not yours to fix....by putting conditions that no alcoholic can adhere to.....by trying to CONTROL her disease. the moment you did that you ceased being a BF and became a Caretaker/Enabler.
if you really didn't want her to be able to contact you, there are ways to prevent that. all has a bit of a soap opera feel.....you've MOVED ON but the ex is still there lurking behind the curtain, who will he choose? make sure you are VERY clear that you are DONE with the ex before getting further along with the newly moved onto person. and make sure the new person isn't just a stop gap measure.