Amy and OldSoul-every word. My ex is the same now-a jerk all the time, drunk or sober...not admitting to anything he's done which further invalidates your reality. Fortunately I grew enough to not need his validation for the truth and I've supported my daughter in knowing her truth as well, bc daddy ain't going to ever do that. I have no idea if it's the chicken or the egg, but either way, it's not ok.