Narcissist checklist
1) two faced and critical of others behind their backs (my ex used to hang out with friends or family and then come home and get drunk and call them pu**ys, etc-lovely)
2) blames others for failures (check)
3) acts different in public and private (my ex was charasmatic and loving in public but abusive in private)
4) unreliable (yep!)
5) superior attitude (yep-my ex would be pissed at any job he had bc after 6 months he wasn't promoted to the top and thought he was better than everyone else)
6) lives in fantasy land of porn, affairs or dreams (check)
7) distorts facts to suit own agenda (um, yeah, all the time)
8) irresponsible with money (yep)
9) Only emotionally available when wants somethig (all the time-only he counted)
10) lacks sympathy for others (check)
11) controlling (and stalking, threatening and intimidating-you know, to show what a big man he is)
12) provokes people then blames them for fight (every day in my marriage)
13) cant admit mistakes (God yes-won't admit to anything bc he doesn't think he's made any mistakes)
Check and check. Just thought this may help some of y'all.