Sorry I can't give you good advise because I'm in a similar situation. I hope you are able to talk to him about his behaviors when he is sober (My AH is closed off/drinking all the time). It sounds like he is at least apologetic and he may be able to listen to reason. Right now all you can do if you are thinking of leaving him/kicking him out is that you start making arrangements now. You don't have to do it right away, but start saving money, keep a log, make sure you have copies of important documents. There is a sticky at the top about leaving. It sure does help. Hugs and I hope there is a shining light in this sucky situation.