Hi Winter, kudos to you on starting this process. It does seem like you should get the kids. I know very little about how this works as I've never had kids or been married.
It seems like many women with addict ex-spouses wind up with sole or main custody. It seems it should be similar for men. Any of you legal types out there know about this? I suppose it would depend on the state.
I hate to see anyone going through what you are experience however I do appreciate the male perspective on this. It seems more women come here. Addiction is not racists, sexist, classist; it goes after anyone and everyone.