cat.....I know that I have written to you about this before.....but, here goes again...lol.....
Have you aborted the idea of residential treatment/living? Especially, since he is still 17yrs. of age....you still have legal leverage.....
This seems too big and critical for you to "handle" alone....especially, without the support of your husband....
Strangers (who are trained) are much better at dealing than parental figures, at this age.....
You need a suppo rt group sooo badly.....face to face people that you can talk to ......
(also..don't forget that he has opiates on board....that affects a persons judgement as much as a belly full of liquor....)
dandylion