Originally Posted by
cat5 
As soon as my husband walked through the backdoor he let AS in, called him affectionately a 'meathead' and handed a new pair of shoes. I protested to no avail, my husband let AS talk to me disrespectfully in front of him (he condoned it by not shutting him down?). .
I too would be angry. Hugely undermining to you, disrespectful. I am sorry to hear your husband chose to enable your son and approved of his behavior. Maybe (when you feel up to it) you might ask your husband what was he thinking at the time? Was it about fear as GardenMama had suggested?
As some at this site have said, "Nothing changes if nothing changes."
Hugs