Sober solstice I hear you on the loud childhood. I'm 44, had one of those too, but my mother wasn't a drinker, just super psycho. Father was the drunk. He dues when I was young.
Anyway, , good plan on waiting for the cleanup somewhat before dating. I married a drunk the first go. It was hell until I decided to be a bachelor forever after. Got married again yrs and yrs later. 10 yrs now.
Point is : good plan