I mentioned this in another post yesterday, ending a relationship for a codependent is similar to an alcoholic quitting drinking.
In the beginning the alcoholic tells themselves they can go into the bar for just “one”. And as they sit and sip that drink they convince themselves of their entitlement to have another and another.
Kind of like when we snoop, we get the “thought” in our heads until we give in and snoop then we convince ourselves of our entitlement to do so.
It’s a fair assumption to say that the mortal enemy of addicts/alcoholics is “accountability”. When we accept that, we stop having expectations for anything different and that “need” to snoop ceases.