"*I'm so scared that he is going to find someone with less baggage and fall in love"
This makes me sad you feel this way...you seem like a great mom and a caring person, with a beautiful daughter. That's not baggage. I know it hurts like hell but you cannot control him or his wishes, step back, honor his wishes and whatever happens is what's meant to be. However you must take care of you. I highly recommend the book by Melody Beattie which Ann recommended. Take care