Thanks, Anna. I am not a looney. Maybe it was the years of invalidation that causes me to 'qualify' by prefacing with humor that's not really humor, not accurate, and is demeaning to myself.
Validation seems so hard to come by. Even people who mean well downplay in order to feel better or more comfortable with what others go through.
Thanks for being someone who doesn't invalidate others' feelings.
I believe that's the best kind of friend.
I will get through this. Brian isn't totally out of control. He sometimes does the right thing. I can do more things for myself now, if I take it slowly and have patience. I just can't move around as quickly as I used to. And Tom is available once or twice per week to help with whatever Brian won't do.