You're right it won't happen overnight so be very patient with yourself and try not to let yourself become distracted or impulsive. I agree with what others have posted>>therapy for deep internal work. You can do it; you can change and grow and become a mature adult and you'll feel a lot better about yourself. This board is mainly for recovery issues. Good job on your sobriety! That's an important milestone to get sober first and deal with your issues in a sober state. Easier said than done.