What it does mean is dealing with her carries a higher price that you're able to pay.
Zoso, here's what troubles me. In my sister's mind, I'm sure she's constructed some narrative where SHE has to draw the boundaries with my mom, the judgmental and unforgiving one. So now I'm just as guilty of doing that if I draw the boundaries with my sister. And being a hypocrite to boot.
Have you thought of counseling to work through all these issues?
Ann, I've done so in the past on and off, especially in my twenties, when my depression/anxiety were at their peak. In an odd way, I'm sort of grateful that it happened back then and that I figured out multiple strategies to face and address my emotions, as opposed to covering them up.
But yes, I agree, it's probably time for a checkup.